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He Whom Thou Lovest is Sick

John 11:3
Todd Nibert • January, 13 2008 • Audio
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What does the Bible say about God's love?

The Bible teaches that God's love is sovereign, saving, eternal, and immutable.

In Scripture, God's love is described as sovereign, signifying that it is an unconditional act of His will, as illustrated in Romans 9:11, where He chooses whom to love based on His purpose and not any foreseen merit. His love is also saving; Ephesians 2:4-5 tells us that God loves us and saves us when we were dead in our sins. Furthermore, God's love is eternal, as indicated in Jeremiah 31:3, showing that His love has no beginning or end. Finally, God's love is immutable, meaning it does not change based on our actions, as seen in Romans 8:38-39, affirming that nothing can separate us from His love.

Romans 9:11, Ephesians 2:4-5, Jeremiah 31:3, Romans 8:38-39

How do we know God's love is unconditional?

God's love is unconditional in that it does not depend on our actions but is given freely based on His sovereign choice.

While many claim they desire unconditional love, true unconditional love cannot exist without conditions in the context of God's holiness. God's love for His people is not based on their actions but on His sovereign will, as explained in Deuteronomy 7:7-8. His love is given despite our sinfulness, affirming that it is freely bestowed upon those whom He has chosen. However, His love is experienced in salvation, demonstrating that all whom He loves are saved, thereby securing the depth and importance of His love. Thus, while God's love is described accurately as unconditional, it is within the framework of His sovereign electing grace.

Deuteronomy 7:7-8

Why is understanding God's love important for Christians?

Understanding God's love is crucial for Christians as it affirms their identity in Christ and the foundation of their salvation.

For Christians, comprehending God's love serves as the bedrock of their faith and identity. The assurance that God loves them with an everlasting love encourages them in trials, reminding them that His love is unchanging despite life's circumstances (Romans 8:35-39). This understanding also underpins the doctrine of salvation; it is through His love that they are brought to faith and kept secure throughout their lives. Recognizing the full weight of God's love, which is sovereign, saving, eternal, and unchangeable, instills a confidence that fosters a deeper relationship with God and motivates them to live in accordance with His will, as seen in 1 John 4:19.

Romans 8:35-39, 1 John 4:19

What does the Bible mean by God loving Jacob and hating Esau?

This means God's love is selective and operates according to His sovereign purpose, as seen in Romans 9:11-13.

In Romans 9:11-13, we find a stark illustration of God's sovereignty in His love. When God states that 'Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated,' it underscores the concept that divine love and choice are determined by His perfect will, not by human merit. This demonstrates that God's affection is not universally applicable to all individuals equally, but rather directed towards those He has chosen for His sovereign purposes. Thus, the strong language regarding Esau emphasizes the severity of God's judgment and the reality of His sovereign authority over creation, reminding us that His decisions stem from His righteousness and wisdom, not our human understanding.

Romans 9:11-13

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Would you turn with me to John
Chapter 11? While you're turning there in
the foyer, there's some invitations to baby shower that's going to
be this Saturday. Pick those up when you can. John Chapter 11. Verse 3. Therefore his sisters sent unto
him, saying, Lord, behold, he whom thou lovest is sick." Look in verse 5. Now Jesus loved
Martha and her sister and Lazarus. He whom thou lovest is sick. You're going to get sick. And
you're going to die. These preachers who preach health,
wealth and prosperity are liars. And nothing more. They have no
credibility. Somebody said, Don't you believe
in healing? Sure I do. If you're healed,
God healed you. If you're going to get sick,
then you're one day going to die. That's a fact. But isn't this verse of Scripture
comforting? He whom thou lovest is sick. What wisdom these women demonstrated
at this time when they say this to the Lord. This is not the
way the world's religion speaks. The world's religion speaks like
this, the one who loves you is sick. Now, you need to do something
about it. But these women are far more
wise, they say, he whom thou lovest is sick. I hear people describe other
people that say they really love the Lord. Well, I'm glad they
do. But is that the way we ought to speak? Behold, he whom thou
lovest is sick. Now, John, the writer of this
book, is sometimes called the apostle of love. And look at
the way he speaks. Look in John chapter 13. Verse 23. Now, there was leaning on Jesus
bosom one of his disciples whom Jesus loved, not the disciple
that loved Jesus, but the disciple that Jesus loved. Look in chapter
19 of John. This is how John always refers
to himself, when therefore Jesus saw his mother and the disciple
standing by whom he loved. John speaking of himself, he
calls himself the disciple whom he loved. Look in John chapter
20, verse 2. Then she runneth and cometh to
Simon Peter and to the other disciple whom Jesus loved. Chapter 21. Verse 7. Therefore, that disciple whom
Jesus loved said unto Peter, Verse 20 of chapter 21. Then Peter turning about, seeth
the disciple whom Jesus loved. Follow it. Don't you want to
be the disciples that Jesus loved? In our text, in John chapter
11, two different words are used with regard to Christ's love
for his people. In verse three, the word love
describes tender affections and brotherly love. And verse five,
it's the word agape, and there is nothing greater. There's nothing
that it can even be compared with being loved by Jesus Christ. That disciple whom Jesus Love
to be loved by Christ is to be loved by God. I want you to listen
to me real carefully. The love of God in Christ Jesus
is the foundation of our salvation. God did not send his son into
this world to make a way to love, but because he did love. God so loved the world that He
gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth on Him should
not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans chapter 5 verse
8 says, But God commended His love toward us in that while
we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. But God, Paul said to
the Ephesians, who is rich in mercy for His great love, wherewith
he loved us even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened
us together with Christ. I would not give a plug nickel
for what this religious world says about the love of God. Now, listen real carefully and
see if I'm not giving an accurate description of what is preached
by this religious world. The basic teaching is that God
loves everybody and wants everybody to be saved. Christ died for
everybody and paid for everybody's sins. But if you don't accept
his forgiveness, if you don't accept his love, if you do not
believe on him and repent of all your sins, the same God who
loves you and paid for your sins will cast you into hell. Now,
is that not an accurate representation of what most people believe? That belief makes the love of
God meaningless at best, and in reality, worthless. Turn with me for a moment to
Galatians chapter 2, verse 20. Paul the Apostle says, I am crucified
with Christ. He's talking about his union
with the Lord Jesus Christ. When Christ was crucified, I
was too, because I'm united to Him. Nevertheless, I live. Yet not I, but Christ liveth
in me. And the life which I now live
in the flesh, I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved
me. You hear that? He loved me. And He gave Himself
For me. Could you say that? Could you say he loved me and
gave himself for me? Now, if he could, if that could
be true, Christ loves you and gives himself for you, and yet
you could end up not being saved. And do you know good at all?
It makes the love of God, it makes the love of Christ meaningless.
Now let me give you these four questions. You think about this.
You've heard these before. If God loves all men the same,
what does the love of God have to do with salvation? The answer
is absolutely nothing. If God loves everybody the same,
if He loves Judas just as much as Peter, Peter saved, Judas
does not, then God doesn't do anything in salvation. If God
wills the salvation of all men the same, what does the will
of God have to do with salvation? If it was His will for Judas
to be saved as much as it was for Peter, what does the will
of God have to do with salvation? Absolutely nothing. It's man's will that
saves, not God's. If Christ died for all men the
same, if He shed His blood for all men without exception, and
yet some of those men that He Shed his blood for our saves,
and some of those men he shed his blood for are lost. What's
the blood of Christ have to do with salvation? Not a thing. If God the Holy Spirit is calling
all men the same, what's the Holy Spirit have to do with salvation?
Nothing. That is the answer. That kind of belief makes God's
love nothing special. But thank God His love is special. He whom thou lovest is sick. Now, Jesus loved Martha and her
sister and Lazarus. Now, I want to ask this question.
What does the Bible teach about the love of God? Would to God
that we could tune out what men say and see what the Bible says
concerning the love of God. God's love is a sovereign love. You see, everything God does
is sovereign. He's God. Turn to Romans chapter 9, verse 11. For the children, being not yet
born, neither having done any good or evil. They didn't have
any good works to recommend them. They didn't have any evil works
to disqualify them. They weren't even born yet, that
the purpose of God, according to election, might stand not
of works, but of him that calleth it was said unto her, the elder
shall serve the younger, as it's written. God speaking. Taken have I loved, but Esau
have I hated. That is the Word of God. I've heard people say, well,
that means he loved Esau less. God loved less. You know, that very thought is offensive.
God loved less. No, Esau, as all who die in unbelief
are, are objects of God's righteous hatred. He said, Esau have I
hated. That's the Word of God. And his
hatred's not like our hatred. It's not some kind of vindicativeness
where somebody did us wrong, therefore we're mad at them.
It's a righteous hatred. Altogether righteous. And if
somebody has a problem with that, you've got a problem. You've
got a real problem. You see, when I have a problem
with that, all of a sudden I've become God's judge. I'm saying,
I don't agree with the way he's doing. You better. You better. The only thing to do is bow and
realize that you deserve God's hatred, don't you? Do you deserve
God's hatred? I mean, as far as what you are,
do you? You do. Here's what I stand in
amazement of, is that he loved Jacob. Because Jacob, what a
scheming, conniving, sinful individual. You look at the life and the
character of Jacob, and he's not very commendable, but God
loved Jacob. You see, God loves sinners. Isn't
that wonderful? He didn't buy this as good. Jacob
have I loved. Now, Esau deserved the righteous
hatred of God, but thank God because of his character, because
of his graciousness, because of his mercy, he loves sinners. Jacob. If he can love Jacob,
he can love me, if he's so pleased. Come with me to a passage of
scripture in Deuteronomy chapter 7. I'm going to ask you to turn
to a lot of scriptures this morning, because I know that what we're
saying is out of step with human religion, and I want you to see
that it's what the book of God teaches. Look in verse seven
of Deuteronomy chapter seven. The Lord did not set his love
upon you nor choose you because you were more in number than
any people. For you were the fewest of all people, but because
the Lord loved you. That's why I love you. Because
he did. Whatever God does is right. It's perfect. It's glorious.
He doesn't have to find a reason in you. He does it because he
is love. I love that scripture. God is
love. Now, first, God's love according to scripture is sovereign
love. It's just beyond debate. But secondly, God's love is saving
love. There will not be anybody in
hell who he loves. Not a one. Turn with me to Ephesians
chapter 2. And you, verse 1, have He quickened
who were dead in trespasses and sins. And he goes on to describe
us, but look what he says in verse 4. But God, who is rich
in mercy for His great love, Wherewith he loved us, even when
we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ. By grace
ye are saved. You see, God's love is saving
love. Turn to the book of Titus. Chapter 3. Verse four. Well, verse three,
he talks about us. We ourselves also were sometimes
foolish. Disobedient. Deceived, serving
diverse lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful
and hating one another, but after that. The kindness and love of
God our Savior toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness
which we have done, but according to His mercy, He saved us by
the washing of regeneration and the renewing of the Holy Ghost. God's love is saving love. There is no one that He loves
who is not saved. Everybody that He loves, He saves. Matthew Chapter 121 says, Thou
shalt call his name Jesus, for he shall save his people from
their sins. God's love is sovereign love.
God's love is saving love. And thirdly, God's love is eternal
love. I just read that passage of scripture to open this service.
Behold, and here's something to behold. I have loved you with
an everlasting love. A love that never had a beginning. Now that absolutely blows my
mind. There was never a time when God began to love His people. Before there was ever a star,
before the sun ever shined, before the creation, He knew me. He
said, before I formed thee in the belly, I knew thee. His love never had a beginning
and it will never have an ending. And God's love is not love that's
only in name. God's love gives. It's not just, I love you, but
nothing more than that. God so loved the world that He
gave His only begotten Son. John said in 1 John 14, herein
is love. Not that we love God. Just scratch
that. Not that we love God. When I'm
going to describe love, I'm not going to talk about my love to
Him. Now, I do love Him. As the Lord is my witness, I
love Him. But I tell you what, I don't feel good about my love.
Herein is love, not that we love God, but that He loved us and
sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. He that spared
not His own Son. Now, here's His love. Here's
what He gave. for me. He that spared not his
own son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not
with him also freely give us all things? God's love gives.
You see, love is defined by what it gives. Isn't that so? Our love to Him is seen by what
we give. 2 Corinthians chapter 8 verse
9 says our giving, our giving proves the sincerity of our love. Now somebody says preacher I
can't give much now, I've got bills to pay, I've got children
to raise, I've got all kinds of things I need to do. When
I'm in a better financial position, I'll give more. That says one
thing about me if I say that. I mean sincere. That's insincerity. You see, what we give, our giving
proves the sincerity of our love. But, you know, that's never going
to be said of God's love that it's insincere. God so loved
the world that he gave. And God's love is a complete
love. Would you turn with me to John
chapter 17? Now, this verse of Scripture is the If you would
ask me, what is the hardest verse of Scripture in the Bible that
you have to get hold of, that you just have a hard time with? This Scripture is the one that
I have the hardest time with right here. I mean, it's just
so amazing, so astounding. Verse 23 of John chapter 17,
I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one,
that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved
them as Thou has loved me. Now, can you get a hold of that?
That God loves you exactly as he loves his son. That's hard to grasp, isn't it?
God loves me that way? With the same love he loves his
son with? Is there anything lacking in
God's love to Christ? No, the Father loveth the Son,
and hath given all things into His hand. And that's exactly
how He loves His people, completely with the same love He has to
His Son. The next thing I want to say
about God's love is God's love is a conditional love. Somebody
says, you said that wrong. You meant to say unconditional.
No, I didn't. I didn't mean to say unconditional at all. God's
love is a conditional love. People say they want to be loved
unconditionally. What they mean by that is I don't
want to have to change my character, conduct or anything else. I just
want to love you the way I am and I can get by with whatever
I want to. That's what people mean by that when they say I want
to be loved unconditionally. But as far as it goes, you know,
there's no such thing as unconditional love. It's a non-entity. There's never been unconditional
love. You see, God can't love me as
I am. He can't remain God and do it.
He can't love me just as I am. Turn with me to Romans chapter
eight. Romans chapter eight, verse thirty
five. Who shall separate us from the
love of Christ? Shall tribulation or distress
or persecution or famine or nakedness or peril or sword? As it's written,
for thy sake we're killed all the day long. We're as Canada's
sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we're
more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded
that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities,
nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height,
nor depth, nor any other creature shall be able to separate us
from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Now, here's the condition of
God's love in Christ Jesus, our Lord. You see, if I'm united to Christ,
this gives me such confidence, this gives me such joy. If I'm
united to Christ, I'm one with Him. Does Jesus Christ deserve
the love of God? Is Jesus Christ altogether lovely
to God? Yes, He is. Me too. Because I'm united to Him. I'm
one with Him. I don't even like this concept
of unconditional love. You know, if God can unconditionally
love me, He can unconditionally decide to stop loving me, can't
He? But in Christ, I actually merit the love of God. I'm united
to the Lord Jesus Christ. And I'm lovely to Him. And that's where my confidence
is. You know, I haven't come into... He's my Heavenly Father. And
I can come into his presence with confidence as his son, knowing
I have that relationship united to Christ. He's my heavenly father.
He loves me. And I'm beautiful to him. Isn't
that wonderful? I might not be beautiful to anybody
else, but I'm beautiful to him because I'm united to Christ.
And I'm loved with an everlasting love. And that's my confidence.
This is how I come into his presence with confidence. It's a conditional
love. And God's love is immutable.
That means it knows no changes. It's not hot one day and cold
the next. Now you think about your spouse.
You love your spouse. You love your spouse. You really
do. But sometimes you think you hate them. Except for me. I know
you're all like that. Loves up, down, strong, cold. You know the way it is. God's
love's not like that. It's immutable. I'm the Lord. I change not. Therefore, ye sons of Jacob are
not consumed. Having loved his own which were
in the world. The scripture says in John chapter
13 verse 1 concerning the Lord Jesus Christ. Having loved his
own which were in the world. He loved them to the end, to
the uttermost. And God's love, talking about
the love of God, God's love causes love in return. Let me show you
that in Scripture. Turn to 1 John chapter 4. Verse
19. We love Him because, here's the
reason, He first loved us. If I don't love Him, I don't
have any reason to even suspect that He loves me. I really don't. But if I love Him, and that means
I love Him as He is, I love Him as He's revealed in His Word,
I love His glorious attributes, I love His sovereignty because
it's Him, I love His holiness, I love His grace, I love His
mercy, I love His justice, I love every one of His attributes,
I love His way-saving sinners, I love the Lord Jesus Christ.
That's the evidence that He loves me. We love Him because He first
loved us. And God's love is a chastening
love. Hebrews 12, verse 5, Have you forgotten the exhortation
which speaketh unto you as unto children? My son, despise not
thou the chastening of the Lord. nor faint when thou art rebuked
of him for whom the Lord loveth, he chasteneth, and scourgeth
every son whom he receiveth." If you endure chastening, God
deals with you as with sons. For what son is he whom the Father
chasteneth not? But if you be without chastisement,
whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards and not sons.
Furthermore, we have had fathers of our flesh, which corrected
us, and we gave them reverence. Shall we not much rather be in
subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily
for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure. But he for
our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness." Now
no chastening for the present time seems to be joyous, but
grievous. Nevertheless, afterward it yielded. the peaceable fruit
of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby." Now,
if you love your children, what do you do? You correct them. You chasten them. You make them
do right. The refusal to chasten, the refusal
to make your children do what's right, is lack of love. That's all it can be called. Children, be thankful for parents
who chase you. What a blessing. All it means
is they love you. Parents chasing your children,
as long as you have authority over them, as long as you financially
support them, it's your responsibility to make them do right. And that includes making them
be in worship services. You make them do right. And that's
what the Lord calls you to do. And if I don't make my children
do right, if I don't chasten them and make them do right,
all I'm saying by that is I don't love them. I'm not being the
parent I'm called on to be. You see, the Lord's not like
that, though, ever, is he? Every one of us have loosened
up in our chastening when we should. But whom the Lord loves,
he loves us far too much whom the Lord loves, he chastens and
he scourges every son that he receives. Now would you turn
to 2nd Corinthians chapter 5. 2nd Corinthians chapter 5. Verse
14. For the love of Christ, Second
Corinthians, Chapter five, verse 14, and this is true of every
believer for the love of Christ. His love to us, not my love to
him, his love to me. The love of Christ constrains
us. What's that mean? Well, let me
give you what the definition of the word constrained means,
it means to hold together. It means to confine, to secure,
to hold fast. It's translated by these words
in the New Testament. It holds me. It holds me. The love of Christ holds me.
It won't let me go. It's translated by the word keeps
me. The love of Christ keeps me. It won't let me go. That's why I continue in the
faith. The love of Christ keeps me. It presses on me. And it
does. It presses on me. And I love
this. It's actually in one time translated, sick. The love of
Christ makes me sick. Now, what do I mean by that?
Exactly what the little Shulamite said when she said, I'm sick
of love. If you when you see Christ love to you, when you
see his mercy toward you, when you see his Saving love toward
you. You know what sin makes you?
Your own personal sin. It makes you sick. It makes you
sick that you sinned against Him. And you want to love Him
in return as He's loved you. That's what your desire is. The
love of Christ constrains His people. It causes me to do things
that I wouldn't do. And it keeps me from doing things
I would do. The love of Christ is a constraining
love. And if it doesn't constrain me,
it's because I don't know anything about it. Can't you just say,
the love of Christ constrains us? And you know, it does constrain
me. It constrains you. What a glorious thing. It's impossible to be loved by
Christ and not be constrained by that love. Now, one final
scripture, turn to 1 John chapter 4. Isn't it great to be loved by
Christ? Verse 16. 1 John chapter 4, verse 16. And we have known and believed
the love that God hath toward us. God is love, and he that
dwelleth in love dwelleth in God. We've known and believed
the love that God hath to us. Now, what does that mean? Does
it mean, well, I really believe God loves me? Do you know you can believe God
loves you and it not be so? There are a lot of people who
believe, well, sure, God loves me. He loves everybody. That
doesn't mean He does. I think what our Lord said to
that group, Lord, Lord, have we not preached in your name?
In your name have we not cast out devils? In your name have
we not done many wonderful works? Notice their estimation of their
own works, many and wonderful. And then the Lord says, Then
shall I say unto them, Depart from me, ye that work iniquity. I never knew you. I never knew you to be mine.
I never loved you. I never entered an intimate relationship
with you. So what does God mean when he
says we have known and believed the love that God has to us?
That word believed is we've known and relied upon the love that
God has to us. I am relying upon the fact that
his love is sovereign. If he chooses to love me, he
can. I'm relying on the fact that His love is saving. All
He loves, He saves. I'm relying on the fact that
His love is eternal, giving, complete, conditional, immutable,
chastening, constraining love. I'm relying on that. I'm relying
on His great love to me. And truly, I stand amazed in
the presence of Jesus the Nazarene and wonder how He can love me,
a sinner, condemned, unclean. Lord, behold, He whom Thou lovest is sick. I want to be in that group. He
whom thou lovest. Let me tell you something. Everybody
that wants to be in that group is in that group. No exceptions. Everybody who wants to be loved
by the God of the Bible is loved by the God of the Bible. They
really are. Oh, I trust this has been a blessing. Let's pray together.
Todd Nibert
About Todd Nibert
Todd Nibert is pastor of Todd's Road Grace Church in Lexington, Kentucky.

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