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Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage

Mark 10:1-12
Tom Harding • April, 19 2009 • Audio
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Mark 10:1-12

And he arose from thence, and cometh into the coasts of Judea by the farther side of Jordan: and the people resort unto him again; and, as he was wont, he taught them again. (2) And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. (3) And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? (4) And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. (5) And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. (6) But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. (7) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; (8) And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. (9) What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. (10) And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. (11) And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. (12) And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
What does the Bible say about marriage?

The Bible teaches that marriage is a divine institution ordained by God, meant to be a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman.

According to Scripture, particularly in Genesis 2, marriage was established by God before sin entered the world. He created man and woman, bringing them together, which signifies that marriage is not just a social contract, but a covenant ordained by God. Additionally, Jesus reiterates this in Mark 10, stating that what God has joined together, man should not separate. Thus, the sanctity and permanence of marriage are foundational to Christian doctrine.

Genesis 2:18-24, Mark 10:6-9

How do we know divorce is permitted in the Bible?

Divorce is permitted in the Bible on specific grounds, such as adultery, abandonment, or abuse.

The Bible outlines several instances where divorce may be permissible. In Matthew 19:9, Jesus specifies that divorce is allowable in cases of sexual immorality. Additionally, 1 Corinthians 7:15 indicates that if an unbelieving spouse chooses to leave, the believer is no longer bound in that marriage. Moreover, in cases of abuse, it is advisable for a victim to leave the abusive situation. However, it is essential to recognize that divorce is not God's ideal; He desires reconciliation and forgiveness among spouses where possible.

Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15

Why is understanding marriage important for Christians?

Understanding marriage is crucial for Christians to uphold God's design and reflect Christ's relationship with the Church.

For Christians, understanding the biblical view of marriage is essential because it is a reflection of the relationship between Christ and His church. Ephesians 5 teaches that husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the Church, sacrificing for them. This underscores the sacred nature of marriage as a covenant that mirrors divine love and commitment. Moreover, in a culture that increasingly promotes distorted views of marriage, it is vital for believers to adhere to and proclaim God’s truth regarding marriage, thereby honoring God and upholding the sanctity of the institution.

Ephesians 5:25-32

What does the Bible say about remarriage after divorce?

The Bible allows remarriage after divorce under certain circumstances, particularly if the divorce was due to adultery or abandonment.

According to 1 Corinthians 7, individuals who have been divorced may be free to remarry under specific conditions. If the divorce occurred due to adultery, as noted in Matthew 19:9, that provides biblical grounds for seeking a new union. Likewise, if an unbelieving partner abandons the believer, the believer is not bound to remain in the marriage. However, remarriage is not a straightforward choice; believers are encouraged to seek wisdom in light of their commitment to Christ. They should focus on marrying another believer to ensure spiritual harmony.

1 Corinthians 7:27-28, Matthew 19:9

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Now you'll find in your Bible,
please, Mark chapter 10. Mark chapter 10, the 10th chapter
of Mark. And let's read the first 12 verses.
Mark 10, verse 1, down through verse 12. And he arose, that
is, the Lord Jesus. He'd been in a house there in
Capernaum and teaching and preaching the gospel, and he arose from
thence and cometh into the coast of Judea. by the farther side
of Jordan and the people and the people resort or assemble
unto him again and he was wont or his manner his method he taught
them again how gracious is our Lord he taught them again the
people came to him he healed them he taught them again and
it says in verse 2 the Pharisees now you know who who these Pharisees
are. They're the very self-righteous,
self-serving haters of the gospel, haters of the Lord Jesus Christ.
And the Pharisees came to him and asked him, is it lawful for
a man to put away his wife, tempting him? Now he does something very
wise here. He answers their question with
the Word of God. He answered and said unto them,
what did Moses command you? What does the law say? What is
the word of God? And they said, well, Moses allowed,
suffered to write a bill of divorcement and to put her away. And Jesus
answered and said unto them, for the hardness of your heart,
he wrote unto you this precept. But from the beginning, he goes
all the way back to Genesis, but from the beginning, of creation,
God made them male and female. For this cause, for this cause
shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave, cleave
to his wife." Now that word there, cleave, is very interesting.
It's a death grip. Don't let go. Cleave to his wife. And they too shall be one flesh
So then they are no more two, but one. What therefore God hath
joined together, let not man put asunder. Don't divide, don't
divide. And in the house, verse 10, in
the house the disciples ask him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, now verse
11, Whosoever shall put away his wife, And Mary another committed
adultery against her. Now, if you have a pencil or
pen, jot this reference down, Matthew 19, 9. Matthew 19, 9. And Mark admits, leaves this
out, but it says in Matthew 19, 9, except for the cause, there
is an exception, except for the cause of fornication, divorce
is permitted for that reason. marry one another, look at verse
12, and if a woman shall put away her husband and be married
to another, she committed adultery. Now, in these verses here in Mark
10, our Lord gives us some very needed instruction. And the title
of the message today is Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage. marriage, divorce, and remarriage. Now there is nothing revealed
from the scripture that is not necessary, relevant, and appropriate
for us as believers to be fully acquainted with. If one would
honor God in our lives and adorn the doctrine of God our Savior
in all things, we should be obedient to His word, His revealed will
in every aspect of our lives. In James chapter 1 verse 22 declares
this, Be ye doers of the word, not hearers only, deceiving your
own selves. Now this includes God's will
in our salvation. How shall we escape if we neglect
so great salvation? Submitting to his Lordship, submitting
to his righteousness revealed in the gospel. Bow to Christ. So this includes God's will in
our salvation, salvations of the Lord, submitting to His will,
His reign, His righteousness in Christ Jesus. This also includes
God's will in believers participating in the ordinances of the church
that God has given. The Lord's table and believers'
baptism. We are to participate and observe
those things that He has given to us. submitting to believer's baptism
and observing the Lord's table as he has given us commandment
to do so. And thirdly, this also includes
God's will in our life concerning our marriage. And let me say
this, marriage is certainly between a man and a woman. When you start messing with that,
you're in deep, deep trouble. And we see this going on in our
day, so prevalent in our day. Our Lord said this in Hebrews
13, Marriage is honorable in all, the bed undefiled, but whoremongers
and adulterers God will judge. Now, I want to bring out something
here in verses 1 and 2 before we look at what the Lord teaches
on marriage, divorce and remarriage. It says in Mark 10 verse 1, he
arose from thence, from the coast of Judea by the farther side
of Jordan, and the people resort unto him again. They assembled
before him again, and he was ready to teach them. That was
his manner, that was his method, to teach the people. But the
Pharisees came, tempting him, asked him, is it lawful for this
action? Now here we see, and I pray the
Lord will be our teacher. Here we see in verse 1 the faithfulness
of the Lord Jesus Christ. His faithfulness. Great is thy
faithfulness, Lord, unto thee. The Lord Jesus Christ was always
about His Father's business. Preaching, teaching, laboring
to do good unto the souls of men. He never threw away opportunity
to show mercy to someone in need, did He? in the whole history
of his earthly ministry that we have written before us. He
never took a day off. He never took a day of rest.
It says in John chapter 4, turn over there. Turn over to John
chapter 4. When the disciples went away
into town to find something to eat because they were hungry,
in John chapter 4, in verse 31, in the meanwhile, his disciples
prayed him, saying, Master, eat. But he said unto them, I have
meat to eat that ye know not of. Therefore said the disciples
one to another, Hath any man brought him ought to eat? Verse 34 And the Lord said to
them, My meat is to do the will of him that sent me, and to finish
his work. The Lord in his faithfulness
always about his father's business. It says in Luke 9 verse 11, he
healed all them that had need of healing. All who came to him
with a need, that need was met. We have not one case, not one
case of a needy beggar being turned away. All who came to
him as a sinner in need went away with that need fully met
in Christ Jesus. We've seen that repeatedly over
and over in our study. Not one case. The publican in
the temple cried out for mercy and our Lord said that man went
down to his house justified. Justified. The publican cried
for mercy. The Pharisee bragged on himself
and was condemned. The publican condemned himself
and was justified. in Christ Jesus. Now here's the
scripture, Philippians 4.19, My God shall supply all your
need according to His riches in glory through Christ Jesus.
Now did you ever notice I pointed this out before, the word need,
My God shall supply doesn't say all my needs, all my need. Someone asked me about this recently
and said, Preacher, why does that say just, why is it just
need? Our need is one thing, a person,
the Lord Jesus Christ. You see, if I have Him, I have
everything else. He is my need. I need Him. My God shall supply all your
need through Christ, the riches of His glory. Now this certainly
ought to encourage us to come boldly under the throne of grace,
to cast all of our burdens upon the Lord Jesus Christ, He instructs
us to come boldly unto the throne of grace that we may obtain mercy,
find grace to help in our time of need. When is that? I find it be all the time. All
the time. Peter penned these words in 1
Peter 5, 7, Passing all your care upon him, for he careth
for you. Now listen. Look at verse 2 in
our text. And the Pharisees came and asked
him, is it lawful for a man to put away his wife, tempting him? Now they didn't come for instruction.
They came to bother him, to destroy him, to discredit his ministry. The Lord knew the hearts of all
men. He preached the gospel of the kingdom to many. Some heard,
some believed, some were converted, and many went away in unbelief,
hardened in their sin. Yet, he faithfully labored on. He never stopped preaching the
gospel. He was never discouraged. Let
me show you another example of what we have just read and talked
about. Turn to John chapter 6. John
chapter 6. Now He knew the hearts of these
Pharisees. He knew their motive. He knew why they came to Him.
But yet He kept right on preaching, kept right on teaching. Now notice
in John chapter 6, verse 63, It is the Spirit that quickeneth
the flesh, the prophet of nothing. The words that I speak unto you,
they are Spirit, they are life. But there are some of you that
believe not. For the Lord knew from the beginning
who they were that believed not, and who should betray Him. And
he said, therefore said I unto you that no man can come unto
me, verse 65, except it were given unto him of my father. Look at verse 66. Many of them
quit. From that time many of his disciples
went back and walked no more with him. And then he took this
opportunity, he turned to the twelve, Peter, James, and John,
and the rest of them said, now boys, if you want to quit, right
here's the opportunity. Will you also go away? Then Simon
Peter answered him, Lord, to whom shall we go? Thou hast the
words of eternal life. We believe and are sure that
thou art that Christ, the Son of the living God. Yet one of
you is a devil. But he kept right on teaching
and preaching and ministering the gospel. Even though probably
three or four thousand people in that day walked away, it was
the same crowd that he provided the loaves and fishes and fed
that crowd of five thousand. Same crowd. Majority of them
turned and walked away from him. Was he going to quit? Oh no.
Oh no. No, he wasn't discouraged. He
kept right on preaching, kept right on teaching. Let us who
labor for the cause of God and truth and for the furtherance
of the gospel, let us not be discouraged in well-doing. We
are not responsible for the results and the success of our ministry,
but we are responsible to remain faithful to declare the gospel
message of the Lord Jesus Christ. Now I pray the Lord will bless
His word and call out His people, but I'm not responsible to that
end. God calls His people with the
gospel. I am responsible to faithfully
declare the gospel, and God will bless that to the hearts of His
people. But let us not be discouraged. 1 Corinthians 15, 58. I often use this reference when
I write a letter to someone, and I use it as a closing note.
It declares this, therefore my beloved brethren, let us be steadfast,
unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord. For as
much as you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. Let us labor. Let us labor. God has a people and they will
hear the gospel. Now it's not the good and successful
servant that will enter into glory. It says in Matthew 25,
21, it's the good and faithful servant that enters in to the
joy of the Lord. 1 Corinthians 4, 1 declares this,
let a man so account of us as the ministers of Christ and stewards
of the mysteries of God. Moreover, it is required of a
steward that a man be found faithful. We're going to study this next
week in 2 Corinthians 4, 1. Paul says, seeing we have this
ministry, that God has given to us, we do not quit. We do not quit. God help us. Now listen to me. God help us to remain faithful to the gospel
and never be tempted to adjust our message or compromise the
gospel to fill a building or to promote ourselves. If we preach
just to please men, if we preach just to fill a building, we are
not God's servants. Now, filling a building is no
problem. This building, using the art and device and cleverness
of sinful men, we could fill this building and we'd have to
build a builder, a bigger building, week after week after week. We'd
have to buy this lot next door. and build a big building. It's
easy to fill a building with craftiness, cleverness, and the
devices of men, but to preach the gospel of God's grace. That's
what we're committed to do whether we preach to two or three. He
says where two or three are gathered in my name, I'm in the midst. I'd rather preach to two or three
and to have his blessing, to have his presence, than 10,000
people and not know Christ. How about you? God help us to be faithful and
committed to the gospel of God's grace and never be discouraged. Now, the Lord in the preceding
verses, here's the second part of this message, in verses 12,
From verse 12 back to verse 2, or verse 2 down through verse
12, the Lord teaches us about the dignity and permanence of
marriage. The dignity and permanence of
marriage. We see here again the enemies of the gospel attacking
the Lord, the Pharisees. They came tempting Him. The enemies
of the gospel of God's grace, always on the attack. The Pharisees
came to Him to gain advantage over Him. They came to discredit
His person. They came to discredit His ministry.
They came to tempt Him. to ensnare him to entrap him
they came not for instruction they came seeking his destruction
that's exactly right it says in scripture that they went out
held a council how they might destroy him you see that's always
the the goal of the opposition is to discredit the ministry
of God's grace to discredit the preacher I've been I have received
that kind of attack in the past. In the day in which we live,
now listen to me, as the Pharisees attacked the Lord and the disciples
in that day, in the day in which we live, what God has established
is under attack like no other day in our history. Example,
the Bible is openly denied to be the holy and fallible word
of God. Even most of this religious world
denies the Bible to be the inerrant, holy, infallible Word of God.
Secondly, the way of salvation in Christ alone is mocked and
ridiculed. They say, well, He is a way,
He's not the way. Well, the Scriptures declare
that Christ is the only way of salvation. We live in a godless
day. And we're under attack by the
enemies of the gospel. The Bible is openly denied. The
way of salvation in Christ is mocked and ridiculed. And thirdly,
the holy institution of marriage. Where does this thing marriage
come from? It's ordained of God for the good of His people, for
the happiness of His people. The holy institution of marriage
which Almighty God has established for the good of His people is
under attack like it has never been before. Unless you're living
in a cave, you watch the news and read the papers, look on
the internet. Who would have ever thought in our country that
local government, even state government, and one day at the
federal level will probably see this, and even in most liberal
ungodly churches, they approve, recognize, and even encourage
marriage between two men or two women. same-sex marriage ungodly ungodly I know this message
is going to go on the internet and I may get some kickback from
it but I'm not going to compromise my message if it ever comes to
a point in this country where our federal government legislates
that preachers of the gospel must perform and must be mandated
that they perform weddings between a man and a man, this fellow
is going to quit the ministry. I'll have to walk off. I'll have
to go out somewhere in a cave out here and preach rather than
the way we do it today. I tell you, we're living in sad
times and I don't expect it to get any better. You take a stand. There is not a politician in
this country who's got a backbone to stand up in the Congress of
the United States and declare homosexuality a perverse, wicked
abomination in the sight of God. Do they? Oh no, no, no. Homosexuality is a sinful abomination
before God and His people. And those who practice such wicked
things, God calls them reprobates. Barney Frank and all of his homos
in Congress. They're a bunch of liberal queers. That's what they are. Today we're living in a sad day.
This preacher is not going to lay down and take it and let
people stomp on the gospel. What does the Bible teach about
marriage? I'm interested. Aren't you? What does the Bible
teach about marriage and divorce and remarriage? God's Word teaches us about these
things and I'm interested. The first thing we know about
what does the Bible teach about marriage and divorce and remarriage? Marriage was ordained and established
by God before Adam ever sinned. We read that in Genesis chapter
2. God put Adam to sleep and operated
on him. And he took a rib out of his
side and he made a woman. And he married them together. We read that in Genesis chapter
2, the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and
he slept. And he took one of his ribs and
closed up the flesh thereof. And the rib which the Lord God
had taken from man made he a woman and brought her unto Adam. And
Adam said, This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh,
for she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of
my side. Therefore shall a man leave his
father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall
be one flesh. So we know this, marriage was
ordained of God. God instituted this. God did
this. And as His people, we follow
that according to the Word of God. Secondly, marriage is a
relationship far superior to any other human relationship. Marriage was chosen by the Lord
to be typical of the relationship that exists between Christ and
His church in Ephesians chapter 5. Now notice if you will, read
verse 7 and 8 in Mark chapter 10. But from the beginning, verse
6, of creation, God made them male and female. For this cause
shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his
wife, and they too shall be one flesh. So then they are no more
two, but one flesh. Marriage is relationship far
superior to any other human relationship now I know that a father and
a son has a relationship and a mother and a daughter have
a relationship But this relationship between a man and a woman in
holy matrimony far out passes any other human relationship
Marriage was chosen by the Lord to be typical of that relationship
that exists between Christ and His church. And we'll read about
this. Turn back over there to Ephesians
chapter 5. Husbands, love your wives even
as Christ loved the church. Now in this relationship, this
marriage relationship, several things we know that are involved
in this. First of all, marriage involves
commitment. Commitment. Commitment. Notice
in Ephesians chapter 5 verse 23 and 24, For the husband is
the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church,
he is the Savior of the body. Verse 22, Wives, submit yourselves
unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Verse 23, The husband
is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the
church, and he is the Savior of the body. Marriage involves
commitment and devotion. A man ought to commit and be
committed to his wife like Christ is committed to his church. A
woman ought to be committed to her husband like true believers
are committed to the Lord Jesus Christ. Marriage involves commitment,
devotion. Secondly, marriage involves sacrifice
and self-denial. Husbands are to sacrifice themselves
for their wives and family just as Christ sacrificed himself
for the church. Read there in verse 25, Ephesians
5, verse 25, Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved
the church and gave himself for it. Wives are to sacrifice themselves
for their husbands, just as believers sacrificially worship and serve
the Lord Jesus Christ. As he laid down his life for
us, we ought to lay down our lives for one another. Marriage
involves commitment. Marriage involves sacrifice and
self-denial. Thirdly, marriage involves love. Love. Husbands, it says here,
love your wives even as Christ loved the church and laid down
his life. Marriage involves love. Husbands,
love your wives even as the Lord the church Wives are to reverence
and obey their husbands as the church reverences and obeys the
Lord Jesus Christ out of love. Out of love. The love of Christ.
The love of Christ constrains us. Now listen. True love is
giving. True love is giving, never taking. True love is yielding, never
demanding. True love is unconditional, not
qualified. True love. Love one another. Fourthly, marriage necessarily
involves the suspension of other relationships. That is, you have
one wife and you cleave to her and to
her alone as you both shall live. Suspension of all other relationships.
Now, I'm not talking about a friendly relationship. I'm talking about
that intimate marital relationship. This blessed isolation to one
another. And again, this blessed marriage
involves suspension of all other relationships and a blessed isolation
to one another. Again, it's a blessed isolation
to one another like the isolation of Christ to and with His church. It's a growing isolation like
we grow in our commitment and love to the Lord Jesus Christ. You see, the church is His body.
It says that in verse 29 of Ephesians 5. For no man ever yet hated
his own flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, even as
the Lord the Church. You see what he says? Now, here's
the third thing about marriage. Look back to the text. You want
to put a marker there in Ephesians 5 because we're going to come
back to that. But in Mark chapter 10, Here's the third thing about
marriage. In verse 9, What therefore God
hath joined together, let not man put asunder. You see that?
Marriage is a lifelong union and commitment to each other
just as Christ and His Church. He gives them eternal life and
they'll never perish. Now here's the fourth thing.
I told you this sermon is about marriage. divorce and remarriage. This lifelong union can be dissolved
lawfully and biblically for only certain and extreme reasons.
Notice in our text in verse 10, 11, and 12. And in the house
his disciples asked him again of the same matter, and he said
unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another,
except for fornication, as it says in Matthew 9, 19, and marry
another, commit adultery against her. And if a woman shall put
away her husband, as she be married to another, she commits adultery." Now, I told you marriage is a
lifelong union and a commitment to each other, but I also said
this lifelong marriage union can be dissolved lawfully and
biblically, scripturally, for certain reasons. And I think
there's three. First of all, find 1 Corinthians
chapter 7. 1 Corinthians chapter 7. In the case of death. In the
case of death. In 1 Corinthians chapter 7. Notice,
if you will, verse 39. 1 Corinthians 7, verse 39. 1 Corinthians 7, verse 39. You
got it? You with me? The wife is bound by law as long
as her husband liveth, but if her husband be dead, or if the
wife is dead, she's at liberty to be married to whom she will,
only in the Lord. So that in the case of death,
that marriage vow is dissolved and you're at liberty to marry
another. And for the believer, it's best
to marry another believer. So that's one case in the case
of death. Secondly, say right there in 1 Corinthians chapter
7 and find verse 15. Here's a second cause, second
reason that marriage union can be dissolved lawfully and biblically
for this reason. In the case of abandonment or
desertion or abuse, I'd never tell a woman to stay with a man
that's abusing her. I would leave. right now. And
first of all, call 9-1-1, then leave. Report. It's ungodly. It's unlawful. And the man ought to be locked
up. In the case of abandonment or
desertion and abuse, look at verse 15. 1 Corinthians 7, 15.
But if the unbelieving depart, If the unbeliever departs, that
is, husband or wife, he's an unbeliever, and he departs, he
abandons you or deserts you, a brother or sister is not under
bondage in such cases. That marriage union has been
dissolved. But God has called us to peace, not to live in confusion,
not to live in abuse. If the unbelieving depart, let
them leave. A brother or sister is not under
bondage. In such cases, God has called
us to peace. Third reason. Third reason. I said the lifelong marriage
union can be dissolved lawfully and biblically for the reason
of death, for the reason of desertion, abuse, abandonment, and then
thirdly, in the case of adultery, infidelity and unfaithfulness. Now, that scripture I quoted
turned to Matthew 19, and you want to mark this. Matthew 19,
verse 9. Mark admits it, I don't know
why, but our Lord cites fornication as a basis for and a reason for
divorce. Matthew 19, verse 9, and this
is the same The same, let's back up, let's read verse 7. Matthew
19, verse 7. You got it? You guys with me?
Where they saying to him, why did Moses then command to give
a writing of divorcement and to put her away? And he says,
and then Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered
you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it wasn't
so. Adam couldn't divorce Eve and marry another. There wasn't
another woman around. That's what he's saying. But I say unto you, whosoever
shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and marry
another, commit adultery. Whosoever marrieth her that is
put away, is put away, commits adultery." Now, he uses the word
there, fornication. Now, if you look that word up,
the word fornication there is a word in the original, in the
Greek, is the word where we get pornography. That's the word,
pornography. It refers to all sexual perversion. As used in relation to a marriage,
it speaks of any form of sexual infidelity or sexual unfaithfulness
to your husband or wife. In that case, you have the biblical
grounds to seek a writing of divorcement. Now, let me say
this. You can jot this reference down
in Deuteronomy 24, verses 1-4. Now our Lord, listen to me carefully,
I want you to understand what I'm saying here. Our Lord does
not teach that men and women ought to get a divorce if one
or another commits an act of sexual infidelity. We should forgive one another
and love one another. However, the Lord does teach
us that in such cases, The marriage union may be dissolved when there's
this problem, and it is permitted because of the sinfulness and
hardness of our own heart. Now, I want you to turn back
to 1 Corinthians chapter 7. I told you this message was about
marriage, divorce, and remarriage. What about being remarried? Okay. What about remarriage? Find 1
Corinthians 7. 1 Corinthians 7 verse 27 and verse 28. Okay, 1 Corinthians
7 verse 27 and 28. Art thou bound unto a wife? Seek not to be loosed. Are you
loosed from a wife? Maybe it's best if you don't
seek another one. Look at verse 28. If you marry, thou hast not
sinned." And if the virgin marry, that is a young person who has
never been married, she has not sinned if she marries. Nevertheless,
he says, such shall have trouble, conflict in the flesh. He said,
maybe I'd spare you this remarriage. So here's what he's saying. Now
I found this statement, and I'm going to read it to you. This
is from Pastor Mahan's commentary on these two verses. 1 Corinthians
7, verse 27-28. Now here's what it says, quoting
him. He advises those, that is Paul,
who are married, by no means to desert one another, nor to
seek to dissolve the marriage bond. On the other hand, if they
are free from a wife or husband, it could be better not to seek
another. Verse 27 now. If a person who
has never been married or one has been legally freed from a
wife and think it fit to be married or remarried, he commits no sin. It is not a sin to be remarried.
But those who choose married life shall have physical earthly
troubles, and Paul is concerned that they be spared from these
fleshly troubles. See what he says there? Nevertheless,
such shall have trouble in the flesh. I spare you. Now, if you're a believer right
now, resting in the Lord Jesus Christ for all your salvation,
and you, before your conversion and regeneration in Christ Jesus,
have gone through marital turmoil and have been divorced and remarried,
it's often asked by false preachers, and it's often asked by people,
should they go back and try to straighten out that mess? Absolutely
not. That is done. That is behind
you. Don't listen to those that try
to say, well, you've got to go back and... That's nonsense. I've heard preachers say that.
Not grace preachers, but those false preachers. Absolutely not.
Don't live back there. That's over with. That's done.
You can't go back there and change that. That's done. Forget it.
Now, here's the Scripture. forgetting those things which
are behind and looking forth to those things which are before
us. Brethren, he says in Philippians 3, brethren, I count not myself
to have apprehended, but this one thing I do, forgetting those
things which are behind and reaching forth unto those things which
are before. I press toward the mark of the prize of the high
calling of God in the Lord Jesus Christ. And the comfort of the
gospel is this, the blood of Christ cleanses us from all our
sin. Now, some closing words. Do you
want some advice? Can I give you some advice about
marriage? Now, we've been married 37 years
almost, is that right? 37 years? Some good marital advice to believers
in the Lord. To you who are married and you
who are thinking about being married someday, here's some
good advice. Number one, when you do marry
or when you do remarry, it's always best to marry another
believer. It says over here in chapter
7 of 1 Corinthians verse 39, she's at liberty to marry to
whom she will, only in the Lord. It's best to marry another believer.
Secondly, you'll like this one. Don't expect
too much from your husband or your wife. Marriage is a union
between two sinners, not two angels. We need to constantly
remember the frailties and weaknesses of the flesh and be always ready
to forgive one another. Kiss and make up. Don't stay
mad. Don't let the sun go down on
your wrath. Now Raymond and Emily, you've
been married a long time, 50 plus years. And you know that's
true, isn't it? Forgive one another, love one
another. And that's what the scriptures teach, Ephesians chapter
4. Husbands, we are to love one another, forgive one another,
even as God, for Christ's sake, hath forgiven us. The third piece
of advice is this. Always seek the spiritual and
physical good of your husband or your wife. Always seek their
good. Never try to tear them down.
Especially, I've seen this. Especially be very careful what
you say in public about your wife or about your husband. Don't
ever say things in a negative way to try to take him down,
especially before your children. Always seek the spiritual and
physical good of one another. Help each other to be the best
you can in every aspect of your life. Help each other. Pop each
other up. May God help us. May God help
us to honor him by honoring what he has established, his salvation,
those three things I mentioned, his salvation, those ordinances
that he's given us, and in our marriage, in our life. May God
help us to honor him by honoring what he has established and given
to us for our own good and his glory. His glory.
Tom Harding
About Tom Harding
Tom Harding is pastor of Zebulon Grace Church located at 6088 Zebulon Highway, Pikeville, Kentucky 41501. You may also contact him by telephone at (606) 631-9053, or e-mail taharding@mikrotec.com. The website address is www.henrytmahan.com.

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